If you’ve ever been to court for the first time, you might be surprised—or even uncomfortable—to see your lawyer chatting amiably with the opposing attorney or even the judge. It’s a common reaction, especially for first-time litigants in New York State. You might wonder: Is my lawyer really fighting for me? Are they all just friends behind the scenes? Let’s break down why this happens and what it actually means for your case.
The Reality of the Legal Community in New York
The legal world in New York, especially Upstate, is smaller than you might think. Attorneys often encounter each other at court, legal conferences, bar association events, and on professional committees. Judges, too, are part of this community. Because of this, many lawyers and judges develop professional relationships—and yes, sometimes friendships.
But this isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it’s often beneficial.
Professionalism Doesn’t Mean Favoritism
When attorneys are friendly in court, it doesn’t mean your case is compromised or that backroom deals are being made. In fact, professionalism and mutual respect among legal professionals help the court system function more smoothly. Lawyers who know and respect one another can often resolve issues more efficiently, focus on what truly matters in a case, and avoid unnecessary conflicts that cost you time and money.
Here’s the approach we follow at our firm:
- We advocate aggressively when it matters. We will fight hard for you on issues that are critical to your case.
- We don’t create conflict just for the sake of it. Not every issue needs to be a battle. Picking the right fights helps your case in the long run.
- We treat everyone professionally. That includes clients, former clients, opposing attorneys, and judges. A respectful, professional reputation benefits everyone involved.
Why Collegiality Matters in New York Courtrooms?
New York courts, including family court, civil court, and criminal court, often encourage a cooperative tone among attorneys to promote fairness and efficiency. Especially in Upstate New York, where many legal professionals know each other, maintaining civility is not only preferred—it’s expected.
This doesn’t mean your attorney won’t fight hard for you. It means your attorney knows when to push and when to negotiate, and how to do so effectively within the legal system.
Don’t Be Alarmed—It’s a Sign of Experience
So, if you see your lawyer shaking hands with the opposing counsel or exchanging pleasantries with the judge, don’t panic. It’s not a red flag—it’s a sign that your lawyer is experienced, respected, and well-versed in the legal community. Relationships like these can actually help move your case forward more efficiently and effectively.
Have Questions About Your Case?
We understand that the court process can feel confusing and even overwhelming. If you have questions about what to expect in court, how we handle litigation in New York, or how we advocate for our clients, contact us today. We’re here to help guide you through every step of the legal process—with professionalism, compassion, and the determination to fight for what really matters.